The word “Tantra” according to Osho, means Technique, I am inclined to agree with him. Similarly the word “te” in Chinese means essentially the same thing. So then the question arises, “What is technique or technology?”
You can imagine my amazement as I was reading through the writings of baba Muktananda (my guru) before Gurumayi Chidvilasananda chose me for shaktipat initiation when I discovered that Muktananda, although he said he was teaching yoga was in reality teaching Tantra. Sure it is the yoking of oneself with God Self, the ego with super-ego, the deluded individual with reality, but he was teaching the science of relationship. I remember Baba saying that when he was still a seeker he became interested in why some people were successful in the world while others decreased in stature and reputation. I had this same question in my own relationships. Every relationship I was in decreased, devalued, diminished and depreciated me and just as I went so went the relationship. I tried to arrest this process over and over again, but I wasn’t the one starting the decline. I was the one relating scientifically, while the other person was in relationship emotionally and egotistically.
Now because we are studying relationship we have to understand how things are connected. Is the relationship hinged on emotion and the whim of one person who is deluded and not in relationship with reality? or is it hinged on reality, truth, analysis, and good results in the world? Being a linguistic philosopher and a philologist as I am, I look at the roots of language to see how they were perceived and used by the people that brought them to us. Which means that I go back through time and look at the “thought technology” of the people that created it and used it correctly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proto-Indo-European_language
law of common fate (shared fate) – a Gestalt principle of organization holding that aspects of perceptual field that move or function in a similar manner will be perceived as a unit.
It was in reading and studying all of this and compiling all of my investigations into taoist, hindu, christian, kabbalist, and sufi philosophies and combining them with my prodigious knowledge of philosophy, psychology, and science that I created shared state theory of communication and equity in human relationship theory, to bring those subjects into the modern age. The Modern Science of Relationship for those that realize the current way in which we relate to one another is a failed model and getting worse every day.
SAVE YOUR BEST FOR FIRST
“Every event in the relationship characterizes the relationship.” (my saying) Every single thing that transpires in the relationship characterizes the relationship and informs the way one feels about the relationship. Whereas I was constantly trying to have positive experiences in the relationship, scenarios that had value for both of us, my partners, having not intimate understanding of myself were trying to have experiences that had value for themselves. They were unconscious in relationship and had no desire to understand me. Now I am a very deep complicated person, but unlike most people I understand myself very, very, well. I have spent all of my life crafting the person that I am right now. I like myself. I am a masterpiece. I am not going to change myself for the worse and I am not going to compromise with failure. I will not do something that I know won’t work. What was fascinating is that I got so good at recognizing patterns that fail, which kept recurring in all of my relationships, that I could tell each time we did something that characterized the relationship badly. and then I got even more sensitive and I could tell based on what the person said when something bad was going to happen. and then I got eve more sensitive and I could tell from their facial expressions and body language, and then based entirely on empathy…
Ponder this, how is it that people know who you are, how valuable you are, and how to treat you? It is based on how they see other people treating you. This happens because of the mirror neuron and the acquisitive mimesis of human nature. Monkey see monkey do. So if people see you being treated well and being respected, they will do likewise assuming that you are a very important person to be respected. If people see people listening to you and your influencing them and them changing their behavior at your behest, they copy that pattern. If people see people being transformed by you and being happy with the results they copy that pattern.
The problem was, for me, that nobody was on my level and nobody wanted to do the work necessary to get on my level. It’s not easy stretching your mind so that you understand higher philosophy and are conversant in it and you can create your own philosophical and psychological systems and predict events in the world correctly based on them. I was praying for all the wisdom of Solomon from the age of 12. At the age of 16 I read and practiced every book on mnemonics I could find. I studied exoteric and esoteric philosophical systems from all over the world and rationalized them with one another.
Think about socially created incentives, the philosophies that I am familiar with and the terms that I toss about nonchalantly, every time a person doesn’t understands me, or not knowing what I am talking about react adversely against me it creates a counter incentive to my using those terms and thinking those terms, which is not to say that I am wrong, just incapable of being understood. it creates a counter incentive for me to continue thinking in those terms. When people say to themselves, “that guy thinks he is smart, if I thwart him then I must be smarter than he is.” and concealing their thought processes they attack, undermine, manipulate, or back stab, they create a counter incentive to everything that I have stretched myself to become. Which is why I spend so much time talking to myself, because I understand me, and I know how important what I do is.
Do you want to know why Jesus was an alcoholic? It is because every day it was an effort for him to stay in this world. Every single day he was surrounded by people that wanted to destroy him in every way possible because he was the death knell signaling the destruction of their deluded world view. It was difficult even painful for a Soul as big as that of the Messiah’s to stay in this world on this plane, every day was a trial for him. Trapped by the judgments of idiots on all sides.
Stupid people don’t make fewer judgments than smart people, they make more judgments because the world in which they live is smaller and separate from the real world. Stupidity and insanity are not less self interested than Reason, Wisdom, and Understanding, they are more self interested, more greedy. They are full of pain and judgment and venom and they are looking for an opportunity to attack to unleash their venom on somebody that is not normal. They think that they are morally superior because they can happily live inside the box. And anybody that can’t live happily inside that box is a threat to their perception of reality, their gestalt.
THE GENERAL, THE SPECIFIC, AND THE PERSONAL
If you are in a relationship the most important perspective in that relationship should be that of the other person in the relationship with you. On a ratio of about 50% to 50% depending on who gets better results in the relationship and maximizing value for the relationship. You should be authentic in the relationship especially if it is a rational relationship and strategic towards the world because the world is an irrational environment. But we find that this is not how people are in relationship with one another. In their reasoning, speech, and action the opposite is true. If you examine the way in which they debate you hear them making all manner of logical fallacies to prove their own point correct and they never self falsify or try to prove themselves wrong. They bias mine to prove themselves correct. You have what is generally thought by society, the norm (which is not to say that it is correct) and you have the specific, which is people that you personally know and things that they say they have experienced, and then you have your personal experience. Now you only truly know (if there is such a thing as knowing) what happens to you specifically, your personal experience. But what we see is that people pop and lock to prove whatever opinion they hold as correct. Going outside the relationship to look for evidence. Bringing people into the relationship to take their side. Refusing to experiment and refusing to acknowledge when they are wrong or have gotten a bad result. All resulting in failure, an undesirable result, or a normal predictable result but never allowing new patterns or new light to come into the world through relationship. The ego, in relationship with itself through people prevents light from coming into the world. Invalid processes in relationship prevent new patterns from emerging in the human consciousness.
Tantra is a language spoken into the world through two bodies, working in tandem. Through the auspices of Reason, Proper communication, Understanding, Agreement, and Participation, the Quintessence of the Rational Relationship. These shallow, superficial, relationships in America… they have perfected the relationship of no relationship. Relationship is normative and predictable and their are no unique relationships and no spectacular individuals. No new patterns. Just old failing patterns and a predictable sequence of events. Ships passing in the night. Everybody wants to lead and nobody wants to follow, and their desire to lead is directly proportional to their inability to lead. They think because they are incapable of leading they morally should be in charge. People that have nothing to say never shut up and never listen and never catch any wisdom. We are lead by our worser angels. The stupidest among us so easily rise to the top. Cream rises to the top, as does scum, but when you are making ghee and purifying gold you scrape off the dross that accumulates on the top.
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